The Latin etymology of the word ‘intimacy’ conveys the following meaning: it is making known (intimare) what is innermost (intimus) to a close friend (intima).Intimacy, thus, incorporates a notion of sharing by acknowledging an urge of belonging together, almost inseparably. The questions arise then: Out of all that we develop, how many are intimate relations for us? Out of all that we feel, how many can be identified as the innermost feelings and how much of even those can we express intimately in a familiar circle? The paradox of intimacy lies in the fact that it is objective but personal, somatic nonetheless psychological, affective in its dimension yet without having a firm reflective/self-conscious foundation. Most importantly, intimacy of the ‘self’ is dependent on ‘other’ and yet belonging together in such a manner as if the sharp distinction between the ‘self’ and the ‘other’ is annihilated in an act of intimate destruction. The notion of Intimacy thus proves that the ‘self’ cannot resist from belonging to the ‘other’. To be specific, the ‘self’ can only be known through the ‘other’, where it seems possible that the innermost qualities can be shared.

Published: 2018-03-21